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Chart Toppers

What an amazing weekend!  Chart Toppers is one of our favourite weekends of the year!  Raylene and I love the association with the top leaders in the business, the people who are serious about changing their lives!  And we love that everyone has the opportunity to join us in Florida whenever they decide to move on!  This weekend was packed full of fun in the sun and amazing teaching and leadership.  I love the feeling of being involved in a community that are all focused on a common goal.  The camaraderie of these weekends is almost tangible.

I also love that some of my best friends get to come down and spend the weekend with us hanging out by the pool, going out for dinner and hearing from the top leadership experts in the world!  Here is my friend John Lewis’ perspective on this amazing weekend;

I love to travel.  So when LIFE Leadershipannounced that the 2014 Chart Topper event would be held in sunny Fort MeyersFlorida, Michele & I immediately started making plans to attend.  I was excited to say goodbye to this long cold Ontario winter, if only for a few days.

World Class Leadership Teaching

Something special happens when a community of leaders get together. Chart Topper is an opportunity, to have fun, learn, be inspired, relax, and create great memories.  If you weren’t able to make it this year, be sure to attend the next one.  These are essential to developing a strong sense of community through association.

Quiet evening at the resort

If you were at Chart Topper, feel free to leave a comment sharing your favorite moment from this event.  There were so many memories that I will never forget but perhaps the most awe-inspiring memory for me was the talk by LIFE Founder Bill Lewis about the power of being part of a community.  He was truly courageous and shared from the heart.  Thank you for the example you set as a leader Bill!

A huge thank you to the LIFE Leadership office, including CEO Chris Brady and the rest of the LIFE Founders for designing this awesome event.  See you at the next LIFE Event!

I hope you guys make the decision and run hard to join us in Florida next year!  Can’t wait to see you down there.

 

God Bless,

Wayne

 

 

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Marriage is not a Mirage

When I got introduced to Life Leadership, and decided to start my own business, one of the things I did not expect to gain was an amazing marriage.  It was a business, I expected to gain business knowledge, hopefully make some money, gain my time back, but I did not expect to have the marriage I do today.

Our marriage is at where it is today because of two things; the influence of other great marriages like Orrin and Laurie Woodward and Claude and Lana Hamilton, and because the books that we have read because of our involvement in Life Leadership.  Our marriage was never terrible, but it was never as good as it is today, and it only grows stronger everyday.

When I thought about marrying Raylene, I thought that everything would be smooth sailing.  We would cook our meals together, go do things together, be happy all the time and never have any real problems.  We wouldn’t have to put any real effort in, everything would just work out.  That image of a marriage I realized, was a mirage.  It wasn’t real and it didn’t exit anywhere.  The reason why marriage doesn’t work like that is because a marriage is a relationship between two people who aren’t perfect, have different personalities and different needs and desires.

Early on in our time in business Claude recommended I read Personality Plus by Florence Littauer.  While this book can be applied to any relationship in your life (friend, child, co-worker, bank teller), I found it especially enlightening in our marriage.  I discovered that Raylene had phlegmatic tendencies which made her very easygoing.  I thought that was a great trait for my wife to have, until reading further and learning that “Peaceful Phlegmatic never wants to cause trouble and will quietly accept the status quo rather than ask for a change.”  I would ask Raylene what she would like to do, or like to eat and because she didn’t want to upset me, would just let me pick.  Often however, I would pick something she didn’t want and she would be upset and I didn’t even know why!  Learning about her personality helped me understand her so much better, and made our marriage stronger the more I applied what I was reading.

Another book we read early on was The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.  This book was huge in breaking the mirage I thought was our marriage.  I would love Raylene the way I would want to be loved but it never really made a huge impact.  I never understood why she didn’t appreciate it as much as I did when I would do the dishes for her; because my love language is acts of service, and her’s isn’t.  This book is where I learned that I really had to put in some hard work to make our marriage as successful as it could be.  Chapman says “I am convinced that keeping the emotional love tank full is as important to a marriage as maintaining the proper oil level is to an automobile.  Running your marriage on an empty ‘love tank’ may cost you even more than trying to drive your car without oil.”  To make Raylene feel loved I have to consciously make an effort to speak her love language; spend quality time with her and give her gifts.  This isn’t always easy, as it is so much easier to just love her in my love languages, but loving her in my love languages is no where near as effective in  keeping her love tank full.

Claude recommended another book to me to read, The DNA of Relationships by Gary Smalley.  One of the most critical points I took from this book is that “though we can choose how we will participate in relationships, we have no choice about whether we will participate in them… Our only real choice is whether we will work to make our relationships healthy; whether we will do things that hinder or enhance them.”  Gary talks about how relationships are a natural part of human life, we have no choice about having relationships, it is in our DNA.  But we have to work to make those relationships thrive.  This is what I had never understood.  I thought people got married because they loved each other and they didn’t have to put in a big effort to make the relationship work, it just happened by itself.  The illusive mirage.

I have learned so much through my years being involved in Life Leadership and through all the materials available.  These books have been invaluable to me as their effect on our marriage cannot be measured.  Having a good marriage is a lot of work, some days you may not feel like putting in the extra effort; folding the load of laundry, spending the extra 20 minutes talking to your spouse, complimenting them on an accomplishment, but those little bits of extra effort accumulated over time is what makes a marriage great.  Like Orrin Woodward always says, “I can’t promise you easy, but I can promise you worth it.”

God Bless,

Wayne

 

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LIFE Changing Weekend

What an amazing weekend!  LIFE Leadership just had its Winter Leadership Convention in Columbus Ohio where so many amazing things were unveiled.  Life Coaches Orrin and Laurie Woodward, Dan and Lisa Hawkins, Bill and Jackie Lewis, and Claude and Lana Hamilton were all there to share their amazing insight and experience, as well as Policy Council members George and Jill Guzzardo, Holger and Lindsey Spiewak, and Raylene and myself.  Also, for the first time ever, LIFE’s CEO Chris Brady and his wife Terri shared the newest enhancements to the LIFE Leadership company.

One of the new enhancements to this amazing company is the Community Advancement Bonus (CAB).  This is a revolutionary pay plan that will change the industry.  More money is available to more people than ever before.  This new addition to the compensation plan will take the market by storm.  It is just one more way that LIFE Leadership is committed to helping families get what they want by having fun, making money, and making a difference!

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Another major addition to LIFE Leadership is The Next Step Program.  This is a step by step process laid out to lead everyone to becoming Professional Business Owners (PBO).  This plan makes it so simple for the newest person to know what to do next to become successful!

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Finally, the thing that everyone in the LIFE Leadership community has waited for, the new Compensation Plans!  This plan is so comprehensive, with so many ways to make money!  Anyone can succeed if they put in the necessary work, and the new compensation plans make it so much clearer as to what you have to do to make what amount of money.  Everyone can just pick an income level and it will outline what needs to happen for that to become a reality, using all 15 and a half ways of making money!

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One of my favourite moments of this Winter Leadership Convention was seeing great friends of mine, Rick and Lindsay, be recognized for the huge achievement of Round Table.  They are at an elite level that only a few couples share in, and they achieved this level in only 12 months!  Seeing them up on stage being recognized for all their hard work was amazing.  I know their hearts and their passions and how much hard work it took to be up on stage.  I am so proud of them and know they are just at the beginning of their amazing journey with tons more to come!

My favourite talk of the whole weekend was when Claude Hamilton and Orrin Woodward collaborated to give us answers to all our questions about the new CAB.  As one of the most exciting new announcements at the convention, the Community Advancement bonus needed to be covered, and these guys did it from start to finish.  They explained where the idea came from, how it developed, why it is better than any other pay plan in the industry and how we can all take advantage of it to become as profitable as possible.  Hearing the insight from Double Life Coach and Founder of Life Leadership, Orrin Woodward, was priceless.  Getting inside the mind of the innovator of the CAB was such a great opportunity for everyone there!

With such an amazing weekend full of so many new things to help business owners grow their businesses even faster I am so excited for the next few weeks!  There are going to be explosions of growth throughout the whole company!  The excitement from the growth will be overwhelming, and I can’t wait to see so many of my friends reach their goals and start living the life they have always wanted!

God Bless,

Wayne

 

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Winning Gold

With the Olympics going on in Russia , I have thought a lot about the athletes in competition.  What they have done to get to the level they are at right now, competing in front of the world for a gold medal.  Some of these athletes’ whole lives have led up to this moment, when the whistle blows or the gun fires and they finally have a chance to show everyone back home what they have been working for, and how hard they are willing to fight to get it.

When most people watch the Olympics on TV they may be amazed at how fast people can ski, or how high skaters can jump.  But what I am most impressed by is the background work, their dedication to their sport in all the years leading up to the games.  I have so much respect for these athletes who were willing to give up a lot to get to where they are today.

When you are an elite athlete, or elite in any profession, you don’t live like other people who aren’t chasing a dream.  You are always focused on your dream and you make sure everything you do is going to help you accomplish that dream, if it doesn’t help, it isn’t worth your time.  When athletes are in training I’m sure they pass up opportunities to do things that are good, like going out with their friends or taking the night off to relax with their families, to attain something that is great, their gold medal.

They are so dedicated to their dream and their goals that people might even think they are a little crazy.  But people should think they are crazy, because people without a dream don’t know what its like to have one.  When you have a dream that you really believe in and are willing to give up everything for, its not hard to give up the good things for the great.  Most people don’t understand that, and wont ever understand that because they don’t have that kind of passion in their life.

When Raylene and I were running for our goal of financial freedom, never being financially obligated to go to work 40 hours a week, people thought we were crazy for giving up some of  the things we did.  We didn’t go home to visit our family for years, and it wasn’t because we didn’t love them or didn’t miss them, we did for sure, but we knew if we stuck it out and accomplished out goals, we could see them whenever we wanted.  We missed family events, we missed things that our friends invited us to.  They would have been good to go to, we would have had fun, we would have laughed and enjoyed ourselves, but they would not have helped us secure our financial future.  That was the main goal.  We listened to our coaches, Claude and Lana Hamilton, and by sticking to our main goal and sacrificing the good for the great we are now able to spend every minute we want with our son Beau.  We never have to go to a job again, trading time for money while paying someone to watch our child.  We get to raise him ourselves.

When you live like this, you should make others really uncomfortable because you’re always talking about your dream and your goals.  I’m sure the Olympic athletes, in the years leading up to the games are constantly talking about and visualizing their goals, winning their medal, standing on the podium and hearing their national anthem play.  Talking about these things would make others without any goals really uncomfortable.  This feeling, I believe, comes from the realization that everyone has a choice.  A choice to be great or be average.  Olympic athletes have chosen to be great, they have picked something and devoted their lives to it.  We all have a choice to excel at something, but some people don’t make that choice. Their discomfort is a feeling that comes from knowing they could be doing more than they are.  Sometimes that discomfort is enough to motivate them into making a choice, setting a goal and running after a dream.

I encourage you to get a dream, make some people uncomfortable, and run after it with everything you’ve got.

God Bless,

Wayne

 

 

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Foreign Language

Communication in any relationship is crucial.  Whether it is your relationship with your husband, wife, kids, co-workers, friends, parents, or anyone else you interact with, good communication is vital for a healthy relationship.  My best friend and mentor, Claude Hamilton, recommended I read the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, to help with my communication in my relationships.  At first I was hesitant to pick up the book because it was purple with a big heart on the front.  But I am so glad I listened to the advice of Claude and read it despite what it looked like.  The information I learned from this book is invaluable, as it made me aware that I needed to speak to people not only with my words, but also through their love languages.

One of the biggest things I learned from this book is that, despite the love language of the individual, you have to keep their love tank full.  The easiest way to keep their love tank full is to speak their love language to them.  It is easy to love someone in your own love language, because you are comfortable with that.  Sometimes it is a little uncomfortable to love people in their love language because it is foreign to you.  But speaking your love language to someone who does not share that love language with you is like speaking German to someone who only speaks Chinese.

There are five love languages, each unique but of equal importance. They are;

  • Words of Affirmation
  • Quality Time
  • Receiving Gifts
  • Acts of Service
  • Physical Touch

Words of Affirmation includes verbal compliments and words of appreciation.  When speaking this language, straightforward statements such as “you look beautiful in that dress” or “thank you for taking out the garbage yesterday, I really appreciated that” are best.  The person on the receiving end of these statements will have their love tank filled, knowing exactly what you think and appreciate about them.  One of my love languages is words of affirmation, so all Raylene has to do to make me feel loved is tell me I look good in my new shirt, or tell me I did an excellent job in a meeting.

Quality Time is not just spending time with someone.  You can spend time with someone at a movie theatre and not talk to them for 2 hours.  Quality time with someone is giving them your undivided attention, talking or doing an activity that you enjoy.  This lets the other person know that they are a priority to you and that you care about them.  This is a powerful communicator of love.  Raylene is quality time, and I had to learn that if I came home to a house with dirty dishes on the counter, she would rather me sit and talk to her for 20 minutes and ignore the dishes than do the dishes and ignore her.  The dishes could wait, she wanted me to invest in time with her, invest in our relationship, and her love tank grew fuller as we sat and talked.

Receiving Gifts can be a love language that is hard to speak because it is the only one that costs money.  However, some people may view this money as an expense or an investment.  Those who look at love languages as a way to express their interest and love for another person will see the money spent on gifts as an investment.  A gift is something the recipient can hold in their hand and look at and know the giver was thinking about them.  Raylene’s second love language is receiving gifts.  When we learned about the love languages and we realized this was one of hers I was worried because of the money it could cost me.  But I realized that the gifts do not have to be diamond earrings and Rolex watches.  They can be little things that cost only a few dollars, in fact sometimes these are the gifts she likes the most because they are thoughtful and personal.

Acts of Service means doing things like cooking, cleaning, setting the table, filling the car with gas, vacuuming, and taking out the garbage.  Little things that require thought, planning and time.  If these things are done with the right attitude, a positive one, they are expressions of love.  My second love language is acts of service.  I know Raylene loves me, and is trying to show me she loves me when she takes my clothes to the dry cleaners, cooks a meal for me, or does the dishes.  When she does these things for me, it tells me that she is thinking about me and wanting to serve me in some way.

Physical Touch is a powerful vehicle for communicating love to someone, especially in a marital relationship.  Hugging, holding hands and kissing are all actions that communicate you love someone.  These actions are vital in relationships where one partner’s primary love language is physical touch.  In non-marital relationships you can love those whose primary love language is physical touch by high-fives, pats on the back for a job well done or touching someone’s arm when you talk to them.  These simple actions can communicate love in an appropriate and professional manner.

When you are interested in building relationships or becoming closer with people you already have a relationship with, learning and speaking their love languages is key.  Speaking someone’s love language will solidify the relationship, where not speaking it could kill the relationship.  It is important to choose to love people in the way they respond to love most.  When Raylene and I read this book and discovered what our love languages are we were encouraged to show love the more love was shown to us.  The more she loved me, the more I wanted to show her love as well.  As our love tanks were filled, the more we wanted to fill each others.  The opposite is true also, the more empty our love tanks were, the less we wanted to show love to one another. In those situations it was so important for one of us to chose to break the cycle and show love regardless of how we felt.

Have fun learning your love languages and the languages or others, and thinking of ways to show those around  you that you love and care about them!

God Bless,

Wayne

 
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Posted by on February 1, 2014 in Family, Following, Freedom, Friends, Fun

 

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Ways to Resolve Conflict

Everyday we deal with people.  Whether it is at home, church, work, or business, we all interact with people at some point.  Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to interact with them more efficiently? People are amazing, but with so many different personalities, upbringings, character and integrity levels, people can be pretty complicated as well.

Since becoming involved with Life Leadership and starting my Leadership and personal development journey 10 years ago, I have read many books and acquired a lot of information on the topic of conflict resolution.  This information has helped me in so many areas of my life and I am so grateful for the information.  It has helped me resolve conflicts in my business, with my wife, with friends, with family, and everyone else I may have a conflict with.

When dealing with people in times of conflict there are many ways in handling it the right way.  Steven Covey says, “Seek first to understand.”  When in a conflict situation, you want to gain a clear perspective of the problem and ask questions before jumping to conclusions.  Often our first reaction is the wrong reaction, so seeking to understand the root of the conflict will help to reduce overreacting.

Some questions you can ask yourself before jumping to conclusions are:

  1. Am I being overly sensitive?
  2. Have I obtained sufficient facts?
  3. Is it first hand information or passed through the rumor mill?
  4. Does this offence actually violate scriptural teaching or does it just conflict with my own opinions and perceptions?
  5.  Am I responding negatively because of a previous offence?

With these questions in mind our hearts will be open to a clear understanding of the situation.  Too often we jump to conclusions, offer opinions, and write people off too quickly and don’t bother to give them an opportunity to explain themselves.

When someone comes to you with third-party information and it needs to be resolved and addressed, a great way to start that difficult conversation is to say ”I’ve heard this, I’m not sure if you heard the same things and I was just wondering what your perspective on it was.”

If someone was hurt by something you said, it doesn’t mean what you said was wrong, sometimes the truth hurts. However, they’re entitled to their opinion. So as a person of character and integrity, regardless of what was said and how it was taken, your intentions were not to hurt that person, so a way to approach that conversation could be: “I am really sorry about the situation how can I make it better.”  Remember to attack the problem not the person.  Even though your intentions were not to hurt the person, you did and that needs to be resolved.  It’s not about who is right and who is wrong.

I’ve heard my mentor Claude Hamilton ask, ”Do you want to be right or do you want to be rich?”

Relationships are key, they are what life is all about.  Your entire world revolves around healthy relationships.  As John Maxwell says: “Great leaders understand that their team is only as strong as its weakest link. And healthy, nurtured relationships are key in making your team operate as a well-oiled machine.”  Protect your relationships by increasing your conflict resolution skills.  When dealing with people, conflict is inevitable but you are responsible for how you deal with it.  The results of your conflict are up to you.

God bless,

Wayne

 

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100 Goals for 2014

Happy New Year everyone!

The beginning of the year, specifically January 1st, is one of my  favourite times of year.  Every year on New Years Day, Raylene and I sit down and write  a list of 100 goals for the upcoming year.  We spend all day together just hanging out and dreaming about what the next year has in store for us.  I love this time spent with my wife (and now my son) and how it brings us closer together by joining us in a common purpose.  This time is so important because, as my best friend and mentor Claude Hamilton says, if you don’t have a goal, you will hit it with amazing accuracy.

The goals we make are about anything and everything; levels we want to achieve in our business, levels we want to help other people achieve in their business, trips we want to take, trips we want to send people on, things we want to buy, things we want to buy for other people.  Some of my favourite goals we have hit in the past haven’t been for our benefit, but for the benefit of others.  I remember setting a goal to take my Mom and Dad to New York to See a Yankees game and then being able to make that goal a reality.  They both had huge permanent smiles that were on their faces for days!  If Raylene and I hadn’t sat down on New Years day that year, who knows if we ever would have been able to create those amazing memories with my parents.

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Basically, there are only three simple things we do on January 1st to start our year off in the right direction;

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1) Write

Your goals have to be written down.  Sitting down and just thinking of a bunch of cool stuff you would like to do, see and have is not enough.  You aren’t committed to those things.  You become committed to your goals when you commit them to paper.  You become even more committed when you do this with your spouse because they can keep you accountable.  If you don’t hit a goal that you were just thinking about, its no big deal really.  But if you don’t hit a goal that you had written down and posted somewhere that you could see it all the time, it will burn within you.  You will be motivated to stretch yourself and do whatever it takes to hit that goal because it is staring you in the face.

2) 100

Why 100 goals?  Why not 25? 50?  The first time Raylene and I sat down to write out 100 goals we thought it was going to be easy.  We thought wrong.  By goal 60-something we were stuck.  Both of us had a very difficult time coming up with more goals.  We write down 100 goals because that in itself is a goal.  We are stretching ourself to find our motivation.  When we sit down every year the first goals are easy to come up with, its hard to write as fast as we can say them.  But there comes a point every year when we begin to slow down and really have to think hard about what our next goal should be.  And often, those are the goals that are most meaningful to us and push us the hardest.  Going beyond 100 goals is a bonus, but I really encourage you to stick with it until you have written down 100.

3) Goals vs. Resolutions

The reason I am talking about setting goals here and not setting resolutions is simple.  One of the number one resolutions every year is “lose weight” or “get in shape” or something along those lines.  That is why gym membership sales skyrocket in December and January. The problem is, “getting in shape” is not specific at all, it’s very hard to see progress so people become disheartened and quit.  If however they set a GOAL to “lose 10 pounds”, they could gradually see themselves progressing to their goal.  They could see that they’ve lost .5 pounds one week and 1 pound the next.  These things are measurable and will therefore keep them motivated to continue until they have reached success.  The same things is true for anything, not just losing weight.  You could set a resolution to “read more” but what does that really mean?  How can you know if you are reading more if you aren’t measuring anything.  Instead, set a GOAL to “read 30 books this year” or “read one book per month”.  Those goals are measurable and you can’t easily keep yourself accountable to them.

It is never too late to sit down with your spouse and start your list of 100 goals.  It might work better for you to write lists separately until you hit your plateau then combine your efforts to come up with the rest.  Whatever you do, I really urge you to come up with a list of 100 goals for 2014 and see how many you can accomplish.  You may not get everything done this year, or even the next, Raylene and I have had to put goals on our list 2 and 3 years in a row before we hit them.  The timeframe in which you hit them is not the most important thing, it is that fact that you commit and re-commit yourself to chasing after them until you reach success.

Have an awesome New Year!

God Bless,

Wayne

 

 

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Top 10 of 2013

This has been the greatest year for achievements and special moments in our 10 year career as business owners.  As I look back and think through so many awesome times over the past year, I probably could have made a top 50 list.  But I decided to break down my top 10 moments of 2013.  I hope you enjoy, and feel free to comment on your own top moments of 2013.

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My good friends John and Michele Lewis pushing hard to close out the year as new Turbo 100′s in the Kaizen Community.  I am so happy to see you guys chase your goal, fall a little short but hit a new level in the process.

#9

We hosted a Leadershift book signing at the London location of Chapters.  Orrin Woodward came to the event to sign hundreds of copies of his new book.  The day was a complete success.  The store was so overwhelmed with all the attention, they asked me to help them do other book promotions!  That’s the power of our LIFE community.

#8

The Round Table House Boat trip was a HUGE success.  We had such an amazing time hanging out with other leaders, going “blobbing”, having campfires and so much more!  Congratulations to all the Kaizen Round Tables for your success and the commitment it takes to lead hundreds of families, love you all.

#7

My good friends Stuart and Carrianne Hall hitting a HUGE level of leadership, going Round Table!!!  This was a catalyst that helped two other couples in Ontario hit the same level.  Congratulations to this amazing couple, we are so proud to welcome you into the Round Table.

#6

My good friends Ricky and Lindsey McGuire hitting Round Table in just 12 short months from showing their first plan!  This is what the LIFE Leadership community is all about, FAST growth!  Expectations are the key to getting someone started properly and believing they can go as fast as they want!  All they did to achieve success was set a goal of something they were truly sold out to and didn’t let anyone tell them they couldn’t do it.

#5

My Mentor and best friend, Claude Hamilton, wrote his first book called “TOUGHEN UP”.  What an amazing story of honour, duty, courage, and a lot more.  Everyone can learn something and benefit from this book filled with simple truths.  I was so proud to get my autographed copy of TOUGHEN UP for my son Beau, myself, and my dad.

#4

Claude and Lana Welcomed a new edition to the Hamilton family.  On November 7th, Gryffin Claude Hamilton was born.  Now with two little boys running around the Hamilton house, there will be even more love and laughter.  What an amazing life those boys will have.

#3

Going Policy Council was the mecca achievement of our business career to date.  Having fulfilled a promise I made to my wife Raylene, my best friend Claude, and to Orrin Woodward.  This goal was so inspiring to run after and achieve.  And in hitting PC, it moulded a HUGE respect I now have for all those who have gone before me and all those who will come after.  Seeing Lana and Raylene get ready in our hotel room and having Raylene put her amazing dress on with her glittery shoes.  Seeing her eyes light up and watching Lana being so proud of her.  Having my parents in the audience and back stage to see how the LIFE community treats their business owners.  These are all memories I have etched in my mind that I will never forget.  Thanks again to all those who made that day such a memorable event for Raylene and I.

#2

On January 17, 2013 I awoke to Raylene leaning over me saying “I think I’m pregnant!!!”  To say this did not take my breath away and my eyes did not leak for a few moments would be a lie.  It was four in the morning and we both could not go back to sleep and we needed to go get four or five different pregnancy tests just to be sure.  On this day Raylene and I celebrated being together 20 years!  From the day we started dating, exactly 20 years later my beautiful bride told me she thought she was pregnant. Having children was something that we both wanted to badly, but at the time was not looking promising.

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On August 29th, at 3:31 AM, my son Wayne Beau MacNamara was born.  I will NEVER EVER forget the moment I held my son for the first time.  When the nurse asked me to tell Raylene if it was a boy or a girl I was stunned and speechless.  I couldn’t do anything but cry and smile.  I made sure I passed Beau to his mommy for the first time and I will never forget the moment I watched my wife’s tear fall on Beau’s face and he stopped crying when he was laid on Raylene’s chest.  I ran so hard down the hallway and busted the door open to the waiting room to tell all my family and best friends that we had a BOY and his name was Beau!!!  I hugged Claude and cried a bit again seeing our closest and most loyal friends and family be there for Raylene and I.  I am crying right now just thinking of this night.

This was the year of a lifetime, and I am excited to see what more will happen in 2014.  I want to thank all my family, Clade and Lana, Orrin and Laurie, and my amazing wife Raylene for all the encouragement and memories that we shared together throughout this past year.

May God keep blessing us all in the LIFE community.

Thanks for taking the time to read my favourite moments of 2013.

Love ya lots

God Bless

Wayne

 

 
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Posted by on December 20, 2013 in Freedom, Friends, Fun, Leadership

 

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Success Leaves Clues

Leadership can have a huge impact on your life financially, relationally and ripple into your community.  You can’t just sit back and think “someone else will take care of that”, or  ”it will start from the top and work its way down”.  As an entrepreneur I learned it is almost the complete opposite.  If we want to make a difference in our life or make a change in our community it starts from the home.

if you follow successful people and you spend time with them there is a common thread throughout them all.  They may be from different industries, different ages and have different goals in life, but they all have things in common.  If you want to be successful, applying these principles will have you well on your way.

1) Curiosity 

The most successful people that you know stay curious.  Asking why is part of who they are; they ask questions and are curious.  ”Some men see things as they are and ask why, others dream things that never were and ask why not” – George Shaw.

Do you spend time with curious people?  Who is the most curious person you know?  Do you learn something new everyday?  Do you partake in the fruit of failure everyday?

People would be blown away by how many times successful people have failed.  People see others on stage, playing professional sports, and as CEOs of major companies and just assume they were born to be there.  If you looked at their life though, and didn’t see their success now, you would probably think they were a huge failure.  The point of failure is learning from your mistakes and getting back up.  I believe you are never brought to something without the ability to get through it.  We think that our situation is the worst situation because we are living through it, but everyone is going through things.  We allow ourselves to hang us up the most, mostly by worrying about what other people think of us.

Are you enjoying your life?  Are you always waiting for a better day?

The cure for boredom is curiosity.  Follow the people who are curious.

2) Environment

When you are not in the right environment, there are drastically different results that happen in your life.

As a welder, I worked with good people, but we never got recognized for doing anything well.  I felt my development as a person was being stunted.  They weren’t encouraging us to develop better thinking or read books to develop ourselves.  We were like fish trapped inside a fish tank and our growth was dependent on how big our tank was.  If we were put in a bigger tank, we could grow and develop even further, but we were trapped in a little tank.  Based on your environment your leadership will develop.  Finding a community that will reward you and recognize you for growing and developing as a person is key for success.

Change yourself and your environment.  The people with whom you habitually associate with are called your reference group.  A Harvard study determined that these people determine as much as 95% of your success or failure in life.

Keep company with good men and you will increase their numbers (Italian proverb)

3) Awareness

How aware are you?  We must know ourselves to grow ourselves.  We need to know our strengths, weaknesses, interests and opportunities in order to progress and develop as a person.  ”The first step towards change is awareness, the second step is acceptance” – Nathaniel Brandon.  You have to be aware of where you are at right now in order to change.  If you haven’t accepted yourself yet you will not change.  Whether we like it or not we are going to be forced to change throughout our lives, no one will stay the same.  The question is, are you going to change in a personal growth way?  Once we become aware of ourselves, we have to get over ourselves.  We can’t let things about ourselves, like our past or personality, become an excuse for staying the same.

When I was young, I caught the body building bug.  When I was 19 I started body building.  I read good books, watched DVDs of the best body builders in the world, I studied nutrition and techniques.  I put everything I had into it.  Some of my peers said it would never happen, that I couldn’t do it.  But, by associating with good people, being very curious and asking questions and understanding what works for me and my body, I ended up competing in my first body building competition at 22 years old.  On competition day I was 189 pounds at 4% body fat and when I started, I was 167 pounds at 20% body fat.  If I had listened to some of the people who didn’t have the results I wanted, I would never have taken the chance and gone to the gym.  But I found good material to read and I found someone I worked with who was body building and asked him to help me.  Just like many things in life, it starts mentally.  You have to picture yourself where you want to be.  You have to get rid of any baggage you have, accept where you are at, decide to change something and go do it.

4) Pain

Through a lot of pain comes a lot of good.  Every problem introduces a person to himself, or herself.  No one has ever told me that they love problems, but I have known many who have admitted that their greatest gains have come during their greatest pain.  When you are going through something it doesn’t really make sense, but if you can pause for a second and take a step back and look at it in reverse you can see why it happened.  When you get through it, you can see the good of what happened.  Sometimes the pain of disappointment can make you do more.  When my mother was disappointed that I didn’t graduate with my class from high school I could see the disappointment in her eyes.  That disappointment made me decide that I would go out in life and do something that would make her proud of me.  The pain of bad health can make you make drastic changes in your life.  My father was told that his health was failing and the cause was smoking.  Within days of hearing the news, and after 30 years of smoking, he quit cold turkey.  Pain can help us move forward in our life when other things can’t.

5) Modelling/Mentoring 

Its hard to improve when you have no one  in your life to follow.  Maybe you don’t have someone in your life whose results you want to duplicate, maybe you haven’t found that person yet.  But don’t let that be your excuse for not starting.  Start by listening to good audios, by watching good DVDs, start by associating with successful people who are moving on.  To know the road ahead, ask those coming back.  A lot of times, those coming back are there to tell you where to go.  A good mentor in life possesses wisdom.  Leadership expert Orrin Woodward once said, “when you can take a general principle and combine it with your personal situation and fix the problem, thats when you have wisdom”.  The number one thing a mentor wants to know is, are you learning and are you growing?  Go get results in your life and change your life in a way that you can see that ripple effect of leadership had an example.  The greatest thing for a mentor is to see their protege create results in their life, that it what they want to see.  Great things happen when we stop seeing ourselves as a gift to others and we begin seeing others as a gift.

A good coach as 5 main qualities;

C – care for people

You can say something to someone and they can tell if you mean what you are saying.  People can tell if you have passion for what you are talking about and they will buy into it if you are.  A coach has to care for the people he is leading.  

O – observe their attitudes, behaviours and performance

You can’t push a rope.  Do you have what people want or are you pushing yourself onto others?  There is a big difference.  The more successful you become, the more of a gap you will create in your leadership, the more you will bring other people on.  It is hard to force people to do something that you are not willing to do.  Thats not leadership.

A – align them with their strengths for peak performance

Align people with their strengths for peak performance.  There are some things I do in my career that I am not super strong at, but I understand to delegate that out to other people who love to do that or who are stronger at that then I am.  There are certain things that I am really good at and I want to take advantage of that because that’s where I can excel.  I’m not saying that you shouldn’t try to improve your weaknesses.  But a jack of all trades is a master of none.  You have to pick something to excel at.  If you diversify your talents or your strengths too early in your career, you never become an expert at it and you’ll never become rewarded for it.

C – communicate honest feedback

A good coach gives 90% of their effort to encouraging you and telling you its possible, the other 10% goes into correction.  The biggest mistake I made in my leadership journey early on was told people their faults before I won their heart.  Be honest with people, but make sure you know you have enough stuff in the bank that its okay to take a withdrawal out and the bank is still full.  People just want to be loved and encouraged, they already know what they aren’t doing right.  A coach needs to correct what you are doing wrong but never stop telling you how good you are too.

H – help to improve their lives

By leading the way and improving your own life, you leave a path for others to follow.  You will gain wisdom and experience that you can give to other people so they can avoid some of the pain that you went through.  When they go through painful situations that you didn’t go through, you will be able to teach them principles to apply that will help them get through the situations and improve their lives.

6) Contribution

if you are not doing something with your life, it doesn’t matter how long your life is.  Ben Franklin said that he would rather have it said that he lived successfully than died rich.  Think about the people in your life who contribute more, they are usually grateful or thankful.  They put people first, they understand that people are what matter and they don’t let stuff own them.  Don’t allow stuff to own you; they are just cars, watches, clothes, and shoes, they are not who you are.  Define success as sowing not reaping.  I used to be the type of person that would want people to say I was good at something because I was lacking compliments so much.  But there became a point when I thought to myself that I needed to sow more, needed to tell other people how good they looked and how great they are.  I learned that people with bad self-esteem find it hard to complement other people, I know I did.  You have to work on yourself, just start saying nice things about people.  Focus on self development not self fulfillment.  Embrace self development, become the number 1 you you can be and never become a number 2 someone else.  I used to try to be exactly like the person that was mentoring me because I thought if I could do everything exactly like they did, I could make it.  But I realized that wasn’t who I am, that’s who they are.  I needed to become the number 1 me.  If you embrace leadership, people will find out who your number 1 is.

God Bless,

Wayne

 

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Everything Within You Was Created To Win

Throughout my life I have learned that to achieve any goal you need to have belief that it can be done.  Whether it was motorcycle racing, body building, business, relationships, or even having my son, I had to believe that I could achieve what I wanted or it never would have happened.  Often, the best place to find belief is in the story of another individual who has struggled and came through victorious in what you are trying to achieve yourself.  My goal today is to tell you our story and hopefully give you some belief that you can do whatever it is that you are striving for.

My wife and I moved from Cape Breton, Nova Scotia to Kitchener, Ontario for security.  We both had money problems in our families growing up and we promised each other we wouldn’t live that way.  We didn’t want to have to go through the struggles we saw our families go through.  At that point in our lives, we thought money was the answer to security, and Ontario was the place to go if you wanted to get rich.  So we left.

Raylene and I were chasing security while we should have been chasing opportunity.  Claude Hamilton always says “if you chase security instead of opportunity, you’ll lose both”.  Raylene ended up being in an accident at work which dislocated her pelvis and pinched her SI joint leaving her unable to work.  While she was off work  we got a call from her sister about a business opportunity.  We decided that our jobs were not secure enough, so we might as well take control of our own business.

I overheard a CD Raylene was listening to and it peaked my interest so I called Raylene’s sister and asked more about it and ended up being put in contact with Claude Hamilton.  Claude called me and, before ever meeting me, asked me to buy a plane ticket and come out to New Brunswick for a Major Function. I was looking for something, I was fed up of losing in my job everyday, not getting ahead just getting more and more tired.  Every year I worked, I got farther in debt and I wanted something better for my family, so I bought tickets to the Major Function.  I knew that nothing in my life was going to change if I didn’t change something in my life.

At that Major Function we saw the big picture of what we were involved in and what was possible.  I heard a gentleman speak from stage about being able to raise his daughters after retiring from his job at the age of 32.  Something clicked and I realized that is something I wanted to do.  I didn’t have kids at the time, but I knew this was something I wanted to do and I was not going to give up until I had achieved it.

While building our business we went through lots of struggles.  From little things like broken pant zippers at meetings, our shoes being chewed by dogs at the door, and forgetting Claude’s name while introducing him at a meeting, to big things like our cars breaking down and costing thousands to fix.  Throughout all of it I have learned two things; expect these things to happen, and be prepared for them.  We did things that most people called us crazy for doing; gave up trips, sold motorcycles and sold skidoos.  Things that people think make you look successful.  We liked those things and wanted them but we knew that they would distract us from our ultimate goals of what we wanted our life to look like, real success.

I talked to people at work, telling them that I had found a way to get rich together and every single one of them said no.  They wouldn’t even agree to sit down with me.  But I had the naïve belief that it would work, that I would make it work, and I wasn’t going to quit no matter what.  I remember showing the plan so many times that I couldn’t even remember how many I was at, and they still kept saying no.  I would go straight from work to show the plan 4 hours away from home, meet with some leaders after the meeting then drive 4 hours home to get 2 hours of sleep before work the next morning.  We were tested.  We questioned if this was the right thing to do.  We couldn’t figure out why we couldn’t get it to work, why we were struggling so much.  But looking back now, we know it was not only the right thing to do, but the only thing to do.  If you are struggling right now like we did, there’s a reason.  You are being tested because one day you are going to lead a big team, and that team is going to be blessed because you went through these struggles and you are going to be able to help them go through struggles that could stop them.

Hunger is the most important ingredient that you need to create success.  You don’t need new clothes, a new car, new shoes…you need hunger.  With hunger you will ask questions and seek knowledge, you will get more CD’s and books and put good information in your head.  You know that when you are learning, there is a sweet sound to truth and when you hear it you know its right and you start to apply it.  When you seek more knowledge you get a different way of thinking, and when you think differently you start to make different decisions.  Through hunger you will gain correct information which leads to correct thinking which leads to correct actions.  These correct actions will lead to long-term results in all areas of your life; finances, family, faith, anything you are hungry for.  Most people will overestimate what they can do in a very short period of time, but they will underestimate what they can do in the next five to ten years.  The only lid you have is the one you place on yourself.  If you put yourself in the arena to grow you can create massive success.

The memories you will make with your business support team are worth all you’ve got to go through to get them.  Going on trips, flying off seadoos in Mexico, watching our business partners, Claude and Lana Hamilton,  run after and capture their dreams, and having our son Beau are all memories that would not have been possible without this opportunity or the struggle.  When you are going through struggles, you will be frustrated but when success finally comes to you, you will be humbled and feel truly blessed.  When I left my job, because of the financial stability we had built in our business, I called my dad and we just sat on the phone crying because of what we had accomplished.  It’s moments like those that are worth fighting for, worth all the struggles, and worth never giving up.

God Bless,

Wayne

 
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Posted by on December 10, 2013 in Freedom

 

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